Commited or Constrained?

Today three of the plomos, my closest friend, got their aggie ring. For those non aggies, the aggie ring is one of the biggest traditions and in Texas A&M. Of course I accompanied them throughout the whole experience and it made me think about the future. During the two hours I was there my friends got their rings, there were a few proposals, and many happy families filled with hopes for the future. This of course made me think about the future. Soon after ring day I had time to chat with some of my dance group girls and talk about my thoughts on how our future would play out. It was very interesting to hear what each girl’s idea of their future. Marriage was a popular topic when we started talking. Most of them told me that they would never get married in college, which made sense, that they wanted to travel and “live life” after college without any constrains and that they would like to have a job and be financially stable before having any kind of commitment with a partner. This caught me in surprise because I had thought that most girls would want to get married right after college and find stability with a partner more than by themselves. This doesn’t necessary mean marry someone financially stable, but someone who can help you find it by being by present and committed to you. This made me second guess my ideas of marriage and how I how fast I wanted to be committed. Not because I want to prove that I can be financially stable by myself, but because the thought of being “constrained” to live life made me wonder if I really want to be married soon after college.