Trusting the One

As we are growing up, we get into a stage where we start choosing our friends and becoming more familiar with family members. We start to decide who to play with, who to share stories, and experience our daily adventures with. As we grow up we start choosing our life partner, some later in life than others, but it’s a natural step in life that most consider an important one. The difference with choosing who to play in the playground during recess and who to spend the rest of your life is that you are investing something much more important than your time: your emotions. So, how do you choose the one person you want to share so much of yourself with? In the previews blog I wrote about how actions give away the personality and thoughts of a person in a way that’s impossible to do with words. Anyone can tell you what you want to hear over a phone or internet conversation or have great personal advertisements with pictures and descriptions of who they are online, but that doesn’t mean it’s true. While spending time with someone and getting to know what they do and how they treat others feels like the only way to start trusting someone but it seems like there should be more to it than that. I don’t consider myself someone who has trusting issues but I’m not stupid either. Most of us know when someone is hiding or lying to you, mostly because we do it too. If everyone does it and we know this, how in the world are we going to have a relationship with someone where you are supposed to share almost everything with? It seems like most of the time the best way and the only way to do it is give people a chance until they break that trust. Until then I plan to enjoy others’ company as if I have known them my whole life because I don’t plan to miss out on people and everything I can learn from them.