Women are Crazy

Women are crazy. I’m serious. Well, not literally crazy but definitely not rational. Meaning that sometimes they let their feelings, not their logic, play an important part of their decision making. For this blog I personally searched for a space where they talked about women…. And I found it. The title of the website is: Women are Crazy. Perfect, right? In one of his posts the blogger made a list of ‘Things Men want Women to know.” Even though some sentences in the list were written just to entertain the audience, most of them where so obvious that could be considered common sense. The funny thing is that all women don’t know, or pretend not to know, these things. Some include: Don’t ask if you’re fat, you know the answer; don’t expect men to read your mind; your man doesn’t think about you 24/7, deal with it; if you share a problem, he will try to fix it. It is simple and obvious enough. I want to think we act irrationally only around our men because they bring it out of us, but we definitely do act absurdly. Why do we expect men to know exactly what we are thinking by just looking at them? What kind of answer do we want to hear when we ask questions that we know the answer will hurt us? It’s perfectly fine that our partner does not think about us constantly, we don’t even do that. So, why do we get mad when they only call us once or twice a day? Yes, we do irrational things. Blame the hormones, the genes, the cycles of the moon, but we do. All I can say is that this is not going to change any time soon and no, there are no exceptions. What is impressive is that we obviously compensate this with something else because most men prefer to endure our nonsense than forget about us.

After Thinking, Just Have Faith

Are you of those people who make a decision and stick to it? Or one who takes forever to make a decision and at the end you always second guess yourself? I’m sure it varies on the kind of decision and how much it affects the future. I feel like my family takes their time deciding, but we all take our own sweet time in different things. I am known for taking long ordering in restaurants, my mom takes forever to choose what cloth to buy, while my dad could look at cars for years before making up his mind. Emi, my little sister, has to talk to everyone and their mothers before deciding what classes to take. Lindsey wrote in her blog about her extreme indecisiveness and how overwhelmed she feels when she has to make big decisions such as choosing a career path. After a sermon she heard at church she realized that there are times where she has to let go and trust in God that things are going to be ok. This made me think that us not being sure of what to choose or what step to take next is just us trying to have control of our lives. Obviously Lindsey doesn’t love torturing herself going through every possible career and my sister hates stressing about her classes for her but they do it because they feel like is the only way they can make sure their lives are the way they want it to be. Like I said in my last blog, sticking to a decision is sometimes the best thing someone can do. This doesn’t mean that its bad to analyze different outcome but, Like Lindsey realized, sometimes there’s a point in the process where the only thing to do is have faith.

A Week in NYC

A week in NYC makes people think. Think of a million things, sometimes all at once. That city has the potential to show you everything from the rich to the poor and from the hardworking to the drug addicts living on a subway. You also get to see famous people in between of millions of people who look the same and others giving everything they have to live a dream. This made me think a little of where I stand and who I want to be. Do I want to be the artist at central park making money from charity doing what I love or the surgeon living on 5th street? I’m currently studying to be an engineer. This major is not all that easy considering that I could of majored in a million things that would make my life easier and certainly less stressful. Another engineer student wrote a week of her busy life as an engineer: A Week from Hell. If most engineering students agree that majoring in engineering is not only stressful but sometimes seems like impossible, why do we keep trying? Well, I’m almost done with my second year as an engineer and I’ve seen too many of my classmates drop out from the major. It’s not because they are not smart enough, but because their priorities and needs are somewhere else. They could have easily graduated with an engineering degree but their will didn’t let them. This is because it doesn’t really matter who you are, but what you want. For example, I’m everything but decisive. It takes time to analyze and consider every option for me to make a decision, but when that decision is reached I stick to it to the end because I know that’s what I want to do. I think that is what has helped me endure all of the bumps on the road of a difficult academic life. Whatever the decision is, make sure is made one hundred percent yours because that’s the only way you will be happy doing whatever you are doing.

Sunny Days! :)

Yesterday was the first sunny and warm day in a very long time. That’s one of the things that can make my day that much better. Not only my mood changes but also I have more productive and successful days. I thought I was the only one that was affected by the weather to this extreme, but I found a blog of someone who reacts similarly to me. Read it so that you can realize that I’m not the only crazy one who believes her emotions are affected by the position of the sun. It is funny how something so out of our control can control everything about our day. Enjoy those Sunny days! They don’t last forever.

“Know Thyself”

Read this blog!

This is the blog of someone very close to me. I have had the chance to get to know her for the past couple of months more than any of my friends. Like she states, she is someone who seems to know what she wants and where she wants to go in life, but everything is not what it seems. An advice that her dad gave her inspired her to write blog and inspired me to write mine. “Know thyself”, her dad quoted an ancient Greek inscription, when she felt lost in her thoughts and aspirations. Most of us claim know ourselves better than anyone else but I realized that sometimes we focus on other factors and forget to ask ourselves for our opinions and feelings. This is why is hard to understand what makes us happy, and so easy to get lost in a life made out of everything and everyone but you. I have met many people that demonstrate this simple argument. There are many engineering students who think their salary will buy happiness , anorexic teenagers who think that weighing less than ninety pounds will make them feel happy, and aspiring doctors who feel like the excitement and admiration of their parents will be contagious enough to make it their own. Some adults even think that drinking or smoking will solve their problems instead of making them worst and that marrying someone with a wealth will carry their lives toward a perfect life. Since we don’t know ourselves, many of us have no idea what will make us happy which in effect causes us to settle for things that bring temporary bliss.

Trust Calculator

Since my previous blog was not very comforting I decided to research a little and find out how we, human being, decide who to trust.

Defining the word is important so lets start there.: What is Trus?

In this website they define trust in a scientific way that seems like a way to calculate how much one person trusts another.

This is what I got out of that definition:

Assessed gain/loss probability +calculated expected utility based on hard performance data+ personal faith in humanity = concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner= trust.

Based on this information the way we asses who to trust is by thinking about how much we can lose or gain by trusting this person and by judging their “performance data” or actions. Depending on how much each individual trusts others and how close this is to reality; this assessment will give us an idea of how that person will behave in various circumstances which in turn will make us trust them.

I like scientific thinking because a lot of the times it makes us think. Not only the actions of others and how each of us trust others matters, but how much we can lose. This is why is harder to trust your boyfriend more than you class mate. If you classmate goes to lunch instead of going to study like he told you he would it would not mean nearly as much as if you boyfriend did the same thing. You would definitely suspect of things and question what your boyfriend did and not even wonder why your classmate lied. Based on the definition this is because we are risking getting our heart broken or loosing someone who we have shared more with.

All of this makes sense and honestly it makes me feel better about the people I trust. My logic and analytical skills will decide who and when I should trust someone. If they fail, let’s hope at least I learn my lesson.

Trusting the One

As we are growing up, we get into a stage where we start choosing our friends and becoming more familiar with family members. We start to decide who to play with, who to share stories, and experience our daily adventures with. As we grow up we start choosing our life partner, some later in life than others, but it’s a natural step in life that most consider an important one. The difference with choosing who to play in the playground during recess and who to spend the rest of your life is that you are investing something much more important than your time: your emotions. So, how do you choose the one person you want to share so much of yourself with? In the previews blog I wrote about how actions give away the personality and thoughts of a person in a way that’s impossible to do with words. Anyone can tell you what you want to hear over a phone or internet conversation or have great personal advertisements with pictures and descriptions of who they are online, but that doesn’t mean it’s true. While spending time with someone and getting to know what they do and how they treat others feels like the only way to start trusting someone but it seems like there should be more to it than that. I don’t consider myself someone who has trusting issues but I’m not stupid either. Most of us know when someone is hiding or lying to you, mostly because we do it too. If everyone does it and we know this, how in the world are we going to have a relationship with someone where you are supposed to share almost everything with? It seems like most of the time the best way and the only way to do it is give people a chance until they break that trust. Until then I plan to enjoy others’ company as if I have known them my whole life because I don’t plan to miss out on people and everything I can learn from them.